BREAK YOUR ROUTINE AND BE HAPPY
CREATOR OF BREAKING ROUTINE
Carlie is a graphic designer that works at a marketing agency in New York. In her spare time she likes to dance and hangout with friends and do artsy things. Having moved to New York about a year ago from St. Louis, her journey has just begun. It took a while for her to loosen up but once she did, we learned about how she's starting to become her own person in terms of being independent and how living without routine brings her happiness.
WHAT IS YOUR DEFINITION OF HAPPINESS?
I think the definition of happiness is what is most true to yourself. I think I'm a fairly happy person and my dad used to always say if you stay true to yourself, you'll be happy. So that's been a constant reminder in my life. So just being true to yourself and truthful on daily basis is making me happy.
HOW DO YOU DO THAT? IT'S HARD FOR SOME PEOPLE TO BE TRUE TO THEMSELVES. SOME PEOPLE TRY TO BE PEOPLE THEY'RE NOT.
I think its really interesting because I'm a people pleaser by heart so that's been something I've always struggled with. I always ask myself "am I doing this for myself or am I doing this for someone else?" I can't really figure that out but as I keep moving on I realize that making people happy makes me happy.
DO YOU THINK PEOPLE APPRECIATE THAT?
Yes and no. Sometimes that can be mistaken for me being fake and not having a backbone. Some people are just like "choose what you want to do!" But what I want to do is probably what you want to do because I'm pretty much happy in any situation. If I just need someone to talk to I can probably talk to a wall.
"What motivates me is the morning and how you have no idea how the day is going to go."
CAN YOU TALK TO HOW YOU BALANCE WORK AND YOUR PERSONAL LIFE?
In general I'm much happier when I'm loving work. I'm definitely career driven but sometimes it slips from me. I don't know if that's because I'm feeling uninspired. My job involves a lot creativity which involves a lot of pressure because you're constantly trying to please other people through your eye. So I think inspiration and balancing what goes on outside of work has so much to do with what I do in my career.
HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH THOSE SITUATIONS WHEN YOUR IDEAS GET DENIED?
It actually doesn't bother me when a client doesn't like something because i know that it's not subjective. It's more when the people I work with or my friends don't like it. That's when I can get sad. I think I take criticism pretty well...but you never know. I get most upset when I don't deliver for people I think I know. That's what's difficult. You can even see it in their look. They don't like it.
"Nobody likes movies that are predictable...I feel like you have this whole day and that's your movie and I don't want my movie to be predictable."
YOU'RE SOMEONE WHO ALWAYS HAS A SMILE ON THEIR FACE. WHAT IS THE SECRET?
I think I'm just susceptible to it because I'm aware of my surroundings but I'm also accepting of these things to happen. Whereas you have a routine you follow so you're not expecting anything to happen. I don't know it's weird. I don't walk the same way to work everyday, I kind of look around like a lost puppy even though I know where I'm going. I started to write everything that's going down all the time. Like I was at lunch the other day and this guy Terry asked If I could help him fill out a job application to work at a Mattress Firm. I could have said no but I spent an entire hour doing it for him.
OTHER THAN BRINGING JOY TO OTHER PEOPLE, WHAT ELSE BRINGS YOU HAPPINESS?
I think there's a struggle i'm dealing with now but being around people and having alone time. In college I liked to be alone a lot. Now when there's more people than I ever been around in New York City I don't crave alone time as much but I do walk to and from work and I need that time. Those are the times when I'm listening to music and feel like I'm in a music video or just going through my days and how I can be better. I think about side projects I want to work on. That makes me happy. Whenever I can give myself time to think about long term goals and side projects I really want to do.
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